Yesterday I was reading a magazine and the topic, which got my attention, was something like “Sexless Marriage…”. I went for it. It was nicely written about the marriage and sexual life of a working couple. How they were happy before and after marriage and what their life was after the kids were born. Wife quits the job and their life has taken a new twist.
Now the wife has to devote more time for the kids and has less time for the husband and was not happy being at home all the time. It started irritating her and complaining to her husband, which also irritated the man. Mostly when the husband came home from office, the wife makes her demands and they start fighting even on issues of no relevance. Reading this article it looks that their life got miserable when the kids came in their life. They were fighting for money and strive for love. Because not they have less time for love nad have to take care and devote time to their kids.
I could not understand one thing, when we want kids, we should aware of the responsibilities ahead of us and should know that we have to sacrifice something for them and that is our time and devotion towards them. It will be the responsibility of both the partners. Though wife always cares more for children, for husband and for home, she has lots of responsibilities on her shoulders. Therefore, she might get more frustrated if husband will say something wrong. For men, it might be easier to order something, though women never deny all this. But she expects love and care from him. I don’t say this situation happens to every one.
I personally feel, arguments between husband and wife do take place, there might be few lucky who don’t argue or they don’t want to share. But the arguments should always be healthy and for the good. It should not be taken with heart. One thing is important i.e. just keep silent when your partner is saying something, the best way to avoid any conflicts. If we think for a while, when we are cool; why we argue? Why we fight with our partner? What we get from it? Does it give us peace or tension and depression? Do we this for dignity or to show someone or to prove that we are the superiors? Most of your answers will be in “No”. Then why we do all this? In my view, any argument should be for the betterment of our life and for our children and it should be finished without anything taken to heart. That will be a happy marriage Life.
6 comments:
I agree about how the way couples argue should be responsible. I guess it's just hard to control yourself from taking out your frustration with other things on your spouse sometimes.
I don't have any experience, but I know my parents practice this. When they argue, one always keeps quiet and at least thinks about what the other is saying. It usually ends with the two of them agreeing, or agreeing to disagree.
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Great article, infact very nice blog. Keep it up! :)
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Well, I personally believe that maybe stress can change you limits of toleration, but when you really love somebody, the last thing you want is an argument, Therefore if you know you have a complaint and You (ovbiously Know The way your partner likes or dislikes to be told )say it in a way in which you are certain that they wont take it wrong, then theres no reason for an argument/fight/problem to be there. About kids, well, I don't have kids YET, but I'm pretty sure that the day It happens, planned OR NOT,we will have to definitely bring ourselves to the same page, because otherwise things are never gonna be easy.
Just my opinion
Well Vanessa you have described all the reality we face. The nicest thing about your comments is say in the way that your partner won't take is wrong. Very true and we should be like this. Thanks for being so nice and understanding one.
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